This is not your grandfather’s world, nor is it your parent’s world any more. And, if you’re like me, a youthful, though aging septuagenarian, it may not be your world either. Times have changed, and they’re going to keep changing, most likely faster than we all care to think about.
Keeping your relationships healthy and functioning during these changes, as we all too well know, is a challenging proposition, especially when the ground rules seem to differ from generation to generation. The mores your parents lived by were very different from yours, just as your reality is dramatically different from what theirs was. Perhaps, it’s nature’s way of avoiding tedious boredom. After all, “a rolling stone gathers no moss.”
There are books too numerous to count discussing relationships. Some give advice, some use analogies to suggest guidance, while others claim to have the holy grail of answers. By looking at the current divorce rate in the United States it seem none of these methods are too convincing.
According to Forbes Magazine, over 45% of marriages in the US will end in divorce, with over 66% of those initiated by women. Many people are surprised to learn that about 2/3 of divorces are filed for by the wife. That number climbs even higher among women who have more economic independence and social acceptance. Could it be that there is an underlying dynamic at play that, if understood, holds the secret to the successful management of that fluid interaction we call relationships?
We have to ask––what common threads are there that we can rely on to make sense of the “whys and wherefores” of relationships? What is the underlying framework of a successful marriage or a fluid partnership? And, even more challenging, what are the hidden motivators in a parent/child or teacher/student relationship?
Stephen O’Connor has a unique take on these, as well as other burning relationship issues. In his book, Harmonology, he proposes that, like the notes in music, we all are essentially a mass of vibrations, playing out our own unique note in the symphony of life.
Mr. O’Connor has somehow taken our birth months and combined it with this music to create a type of matrix that quite accurately describes what we are in for and have to look forward to with our relationships. I was amazed to see myself portrayed in the chapters relating to my different personal interactions. The overview he provided nailed my joys and difficulties bang on.
Not only that, his book gave me wonderful insights as to why some of my relationships didn’t work well and what I need to change to correct that.
All in all, Harmonology is an intriguing new look into how our lives fit together. There are lots to learn here and I found this book to be well worth the time. I even learned a great deal about my relationships. Not bad for a septuagenarian. After all, as they say, some people are from Mars, some are from Venus.