"The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction both are transformed." - Carl Jung
All people and objects are vibrational; vibrations obey the laws of physics. Vibrations, by their nature, are cyclical and belong to an even greater cycle. The birth month cycle is one which humans are each and individually tied, and these cycles are tied to the greater cycle of the seasons, the years, and the epochs and eras. By comparing to, and superimposing the 12-month birth cycle over the 12-note chromatic scale, you can discover some very interesting things.
Does human experience consist of random events, born at random and meaningless moments? Or, are these bodies of energy vibrating and expressing the music of life? Is there a blueprint or schematic that describes how humans are to interact with other kindred souls? Is there a way to gain more understanding as to what seems like the random events and interactions you encounter on a daily basis? This is what you are going to find out. You are going to apply the laws of counterpoint, laws that govern how to harmoniously move through musical situations to your relationships so that you can live to your fullest and happiest expectations.
You will learn how to recognize and reconcile the differences between you and your loved ones, your co-workers, neighbors, children and your society in general so that harmony and love flow more freely. You will discover that every birth month, every personality and every interval, as in music, is valid and necessary to produce the great symphony of life that you experience.
Learning to apply the information contained in this book will allow you to quickly assess your relationships and adjust them from your point of view so that they are functional and fundamentally harmonious. You will be able to have a greater understanding as to why your co-worker at the office seems regularly to give you a hard time, while the lady at the supermarket is almost always a joy to talk to or be near. You’ll be able to let go of past issues with your parents or friends when you see them in light of your musical relationship; you will be able to repair damaged friendships and create new, more wholesome social connections. And, you’ll be able to gracefully change both you and your partner’s attitudes by merely adjusting to this new level of understanding—a process I call inverting. The more you know yourself and why you are the way you are, the easier it can be to attract a compatible partner, significant other or friendly acquaintance.
At times, due to the attitudes you carry, you can override the tendencies of the intervals and destroy what would usually be harmonious. If you have had a difficult childhood, maybe with sexual abuse or abandonment issues, you can hold on to these issues and use them to undermine any or, at times, all your relationships; nothing, even this book, will help until the issues are resolved.
This book, however, can be a tremendous help in understanding the source of abuses and allow one to reconcile these differences and neuter their destructive potentials. Then the possibility of a healthy and harmonious life can occur more easily. Knowledge is clarity, clarity is vision, vision becomes proper action and the proper action then becomes life without guilt or compromise.
Is there a reason why we specifically choose a particular person to join us in this journey called life? Do we merely attach ourselves to someone so that we can procreate and then age until we finally turn into that dust and dirt found so many feet below the earth’s surface? Or, does our choice of partners throughout life bring us to a new understanding of ourselves, a transmutation that is sparked by being close to someone, yet takes place in our heart and soul? And perhaps most importantly, why do we choose to share our precious and brief lives with whom we do? After all, there are, as of this writing, 7,168,945,678 other people on the planet.
Think about this: what if we could narrow this number of options for partners down to 12, and only 12, categories of people? What I am suggesting is that there may only be 12 types of personalities, in addition to the spiritual astronomy (also known as astrology), and that all individuals in humanity fit into these 12 types or categories. Wouldn’t that make life’s decisions much simpler when it comes to consciously considering with whom you’ll spend your time?
According to Dr. Carl Jung, from the meeting of any two personalities there will be a transformation. Neither of the two will remain the same as they were before they met. For each person, a new and more unique personality will be formed, one which will hold the energy shared in their bonding. It’s like two notes on the guitar being played together, being held and allowed to ring out, creating a new and unique texture that fills the atmosphere around it with its energy
Let’s compare it to the 12 individual music notes of the chromatic scale.
C D flat D E flat E F G flat G A flat A B flat B C
Each one of us carries an inherently distinctive sound and strength—a note. But, when it’s combined with a second note, the two together forms a very palpable character—nuanced and different. For example, when you hear the interval of a 3rd you become happy and feel relaxed and at ease. These two notes offer you a soothing comfort that makes your heart come alive. This interval, although almost considered consonant, is thought of as mildly dissonant.
On the other hand, when you hear a more dissonant interval like a flat 2nd, you get a sense of discord and experience a degree of tension and anxiety. As sometimes discomforting as this experience may seem, you can also recognize that these harsher sound combinations represent emotions that we all have throughout our lives, perhaps during times of stress and loss. So, in actuality, all the different combinations of personalities and musical notes are but representative of our human expression—our moods, desires and deeper emotions.
Throughout this book I will be using the terms consonant and dissonant. A brief understanding of these two words will help you as you read further. Both words are derived from the Latin root son, which means sound. The word con, or with, when added to the root son together literally means “with the sound,” or sounding together. Dissonance, however, is a fairly new word to our vocabulary. It was first used around 1500-1550 and has its origin in Middle English and Old French. It literally means against the sound. The dictionary states that it’s harsh and inharmonious. For our purposes, it just means “not in perfect or consonant harmony.” Together, these two words describe a world of contrast. We will travel from dissonance or Inharmonious, toconsonance or Sounding With. Each of these qualities is necessary to produce both beautiful music and rich relationships.
The cycle from unison to octave, from cool to warm, returning to cool again demonstrates the path through dissonance to consonance. This process is like following the months of the year from the darkness of January to the heat and sun of June and July, and finally returning to the distinct colors of fall and coolness of winter. When looked at it in this way, you can see that October, for example, brings a maturity not found in the exuberant months of spring. All of nature has gone through the better part of its cycle and, in the process, brought more depth and richness to the scene.
For the rest of this book, picture a guitar with only two strings—an imaginary guitar. Both strings are tuned exactly the same and when played in unison the sound that these two strings make is cohesive, vibrant and unified. See these strings as being you and the person with whom you are in a relationship. Now twist one of the tuning pegs so that one string slackens and goes out of tune. Imagine how it feels when you’re out of tune–depressed or sad. When you detuned one of the strings, everything changed. Now, go the other way and tighten the string. As you tighten a string, you can sense a vibratory tension begin to take place. The two strings begin to sonically separate, at first most disagreeably. But with more tuning—more stretching of the string—you begin to gain a hint of acceptable resolution, an agreeable distance the two notes make from each other, giving birth to the first interval beyond the unison—the flat 2nd, or minor 2nd as it is sometimes called.
As you tune one string continuously higher, you begin to feel the new and different combinations of sounds found between the root tone (you) and your evolving partner(s)––intervals that travel from dissonance to consonance and back again. Consider for the moment that you are the stable, unchanging tone of one of the two strings. Come along as you detune the other string—your possible significant other, your life partner, your friend or family member—and learn what music can tell you about who that second person is and what interactive harmony they create by being a part of your life.
Remember, as separate from each other as we all think we are, there is one thing that unites and binds us together, a commonly shared phenomenon called relationships. You have it with your children, your boss, your friend, the cashier at the market, your lover, the kid who mows your lawn and everyone else you come into contact with during your lifetime. Take a look behind the curtain of each of your connections and learn how you and that significant other person weave a tapestry of energy that, in its own way, is the music of the spheres—the sound of the invisible symphony of life.
You will learn about yourself, and in the process you will gain an understanding of how those around you fit and function together, like parts of a cosmic puzzle made of sound/soul vibration and tone. Where you once saw tension you will now sense and be able to use the beauty of dissonance. And, where you once saw joy, you will now feel and maybe appreciate the richness of harmonious interplay in your relationships.